These questions may be helpful to help you determine the type of lawyer you want to engage with during the divorce process and can help you think about the kind of service that you expect.
1. How will my spouse deal with the prospect of divorce after the initial emotional impact has diminished. Will they be a bully, a “my way or the highway” negotiator or will they try to be fair and listen to all sides before making a decision?
2. How do you want to look back and remember how you were during the divorce process? Do you want to be seen as angry and emotional or as someone who is credible and a good communicator? How do you want to model effective behavior to others, your children, your family, or your community?
3. How do you envision redefining the relationship with your spouse after the divorce is over – will you be co-parents, former spouses now still loyal to both of your families or will you cut all ties with his family and the communities you shared together?
4. What are you most afraid of during the divorce process? How would you expect the attorney to engage with you in this?
5. What kind of relationship do you want to have with your attorney? What is important to you in any business relationship? Do you want top notch Cadillac service or do you want options as to how you can use their services more cost effectively? Do you want to be a partner with that person or just have them lead the process?